Who Do You Really Connect With AND Parting Gifts For The Rest


You know those people, the ones who seem to connect with just about anyone anytime anywhere – and without effort. For those of you building your businesses and careers through that human connection (who isn’t?), it is an integral part of your growth to be able to connect. But do you really need to connect with everyone? The answer is simple and powerful all at the same time.

Here’s the deal. It’s all about the focus you put into it.

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” – Dale Carnegie

I too have struggled with that human connection from time to time and am not as social of a person as many of you may think despite my ubiquitous tendencies. There was a time in my life where someone I respected called me aloof. I thought I was being Minnesota-nice, but I learned from this and have warmed it up over the years. You don’t have to get along with everyone, but you do want your attractor-factor to appeal to more than your top 5 besties. If you do it right, you can expand you influence in all the right directions.

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Here are 5 things to focus on when honing in on your attractor-factor.

  1. Be Genuine. The only connections that will be real are the ones you truly care about. If you are not genuine, people will see right through that.
  2. Provide Massive Help. Come from the approach of “How can I help this person and what can I offer them?” This is consultative connecting at it’s best. Practice LISTENING rather than talking! Give real thought to who you could connect them with to benefit their goals. If it turns out you can’t be that helpful, the gesture alone will stand out. And then pay attention to them and their business, check out their website, ask how they are doing – reach back out to them.
  3. Make Real friends. It’s as simple as this. Think about how you met the friends you have, how effortless it was because of how genuine it was. It’s the same thing but on a bigger and broader scope. Don’t over-think it. Just be human most humans will happily be human in return, regardless of who they are.
  4. Follow Through. It is one thing to make the impression and become a great listener and shine in your own authenticity, but if you never follow through with the relationship, it is hard for the connection to remain. It’s not as hard as you think. All relationships take work, just spend a little extra time to make sure you have done what you said you were going to do – that’s all!
  5. Remain Unforgettable. All of the above are simple — yet sadly underused — ways of standing out. Send a thank you note in the mail (after all, you did get their business card, right?) Mail your favorite book with a signed personal note from you on the inside flap. Send them your family Christmas card. Be genuinely helpful. You’d be surprised how the simplest things actually never get done. Being memorable isn’t as hard as some think!

Now for the rest.

Parting gifts.

Let it go – don’t take it personally if someone doesn’t connect with you. There are all types of people for all types of reasons. The best parting gift I can think of is a smile. You have no idea what is going on in that person’s life and everyone could use a little extra human connection. BUT remain Unforgettable. One of my best friends acted as though she didn’t like me for years. You never know when you are going to need someone different in your life to help you produce different result.

If you’d rather… here are a couple of other fun ideas and neutral gifts everyone would appreciate.

1. Sleep Salve – Link

Sweet Dreams With This DIY Sleep Salve ~ •1 cup coconut oil •1 cup olive oil •4 tablespoons grated beeswax •Equal parts lavender, orange, cedarwood, peppermint, and cinnamon essential oils

2. Tension and Head Ache Relief – Past Tense is a distinctive blend of essential oils known to reduce the discomforts associated with tension and stress.

Past Tense blend is great for soothing neck and head tension and reducing stress and anxiety.

3. Linen Spray to Brighten Anyone’s Mood

Freshen up your linens! Easy Homemade Lemon & Lavender Linen Spray with Essential Oils. LivingLocurto.com

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